Journaling, mirror work & affirmations are great n' all, but have you tried infusing your manifestations with pleasure and the rocket-bliss-fuel of your sexual energy?

I know, it’s wild. And it’s the future! My future anyway. My version of the “new earth” that people seem to be raving about these days.

I'm here to put an end to the demonization of "neediness".

It's like taking self-love and turning it into self-sabotage by trying to convince ourselves that needing another, a lover, a partner or even authentic connection is wrong and that we "should" be able to get these things from within ourselves all the time.

There is a common myth that in long term relationships, love fades and sex eventually dwindles.

But the stories you subscribe to (often subconsciously via parents, friends, society, movies etc) are the roadmaps to your future sex life without evening knowing it. What you believe is what you’ll achieve and as always, mindset is everything. But a simple perspective shift can do wonders for your sex life and lust for the day-to-day.

By calming the mind and body, meditation takes us out of stress mode, allowing a deep level of relaxation so that everything improves on a massive scale, including your orgasms. The more relaxed you can become, the deeper your state of pleasure drop into.

Living a turned-on life is so much more than blow job tips and vibrators. The truth of it all is this, the better you feel internal, the fuller your sexual experience will be. If you’re feeling confident within yourself and grounded in self-love, this will be reflected in the bedroom as well. Here are my Top Five books for feeling happy, healthy and turned-on.

I believe it’s really important to note that trauma is an embodied response to a certain event or experience. In nature, animals use shaking or sounding to release remaining fear-charged energy after being chased by a lion. Humans however, don’t commonly have these tools and store this traumatic response in their bodies.

Be ruthless with where and whom you invest your energy. You are the make up of the top five people you spend time with and the reality is you will always be influenced by the people you choose to be surrounded by.

Sometimes self-care is going to meet your friends when you don't feel like it, showing up at event's when you're feeling meh, or sitting your ass down and doing the work when you'd rather be watching Sex And The City in the bathtub (current personal discovery).

Learning about sex through watching porn is about the same as learning to drive through watching Fast And The Furious - a fucking terrible idea.