A Sexy New Perspective on "Couples Sex"
There is a common myth that in long term relationships, love fades and sex eventually dwindles.
But the stories you subscribe to (often subconsciously via parents, friends, society, movies etc) are the roadmaps to your future sex life without evening knowing it. What you believe is what you’ll achieve and as always, mindset is everything. But a simple perspective shift can do wonders for your sex life and lust for the day-to-day.
Here’s a fresh new perspective on couples’ sex and why it’s HOT no matter how long you’ve been together.
Gratitude will change your sex life
What would it feel like, to completely embrace and be grateful to be having comfortable, familiar and dare I say "predictable" sex with someone you love and care deeply about? Personally, I believe that couple’s sex is fucking hot! What a gift it is to know someone so deeply, to the point where you have a rhythm and flow with one another. Approaching sex with your beloved from a place of gratitude (like all things in life) will invite a sense of appreciation and excitement. If you’re approaching sexy time with a “here we go again” attitude then guess what - that’s exactly what you’ll create.
Celebrate the familiar!
AFFIRMATION:
This morning I woke up and felt the same skin next to me, the same eyes looking at me and the same touch touching me. It turned me ON.
Sexpectations are the thief of pleasure.
Especially when they're "conscious" expectations. It doesn't matter if it's the same position, same routine, same-same stimulation because if you’re truly present and in my body the experience will ALWAYS be unique. Release expectation of what kind of sex you “should” be having and how many times a week is “normal”.
It doesn't have to be wild, multi-orgasmic, tantrically aligned, blow-your-head-off-fuck-me-crazy every single time. Find pleasure in the simple, the normal, the stable and the safe experiences too.
AFFIRMATION:
Sex with my partner feels like home, it feels safe, and that turns me ON.
Your sexuality is an eternally abundant river that needs to flow & grow, just like you.
Approach your sex life and sexuality with a growth mindset and be open to things changing and evolving. Stagnant sex happens when your sexual energy is stuck and doesn’t have room to flow. Just like stagnant water pools in rivers, your sexuality river can do the same if you abandon it. Clear out any obstacles, tend to the river banks, pay attention to the ecosystem and go out fo your way to keep it healthy and thriving with life. Be aware of your need as they change throughout the day, the month and your life. KNOW that rivers never end and they are an eternal adventure throughout many new environments. Your sexuality is the same. Don’t abandon yourself.
Practice radical honesty with your partner and set up safe spaces to communicate what turns you on now, know that it’s okay to change.
Affirmation
My sexuality is abundant and eternal, I am always discovering new ways to feel excited, ignited and turned ON.
There is no right or wrong when it comes to sex with your beloved. It’s about tuning into YOU, staying true to your pleasure, what lights you up and releasing expectations around what you think you SHOULD be doing. Surrender into what’s here now, and give yourself permission to enjoy what is.
Here's to a healthy dose of frilly-free clitoral orgasms, predictable lovemaking, comfort, safety and 5-minute fucks in 2020.