Neediness vs Longing (& Which One Will Give You More Orgasms)
I'm here to put an end to the demonization of "neediness".
It's like taking self-love and turning it into self-sabotage by trying to convince ourselves that needing another, a lover, a partner or even authentic connection is wrong and that we "should" be able to get these things from within ourselves all the time.
There is neediness from a place of fear, lack, and using someone to fill a void or distract.
Then there's neediness to share love, connection, joy, sadness and simply being with others/another.
I don't love myself to the point of denying something that is genuine and natural to desire as a human being.
Longing to share the fullness of your rich heart and the pleasure your juicy body with someone whom you feel connected to is a gift, and one to delight in.
Longing to be met, held and seen in a relationship that is a match of your worth is a standard to uphold with pride and integrity.
There is so much sensuality in longing.
There is so much pleasure in yearning to share all of your magic with another.
Surrender to it.
Put down the armor and false modesty in your needs for deep love and meaningful sex.
It's just another piece of the feminine puzzle, learning to be strong within your vulnerability.
Yes, yes, yes, I know you've got you. But can you let down your walls and still hold yourself open?